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Cleft Confidence Course
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Understanding the
Cleft parenting journey through a
Trauma Informed Lens

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Parenting a child with a cleft is an incredible gift. However, it can also be very challenging at times, emotionally, physically, energetically and spiritually. It is a journey, only truly understood by those on it.

This bespoke group coaching course is shaped entirely around being a cleft parent and the fear, worry and other experiences this entails; from diagnosis to teen.


It is designed to enable parents to understand why they feel the way they do and what they can do about it. What trauma is and how it can present for us and our children along the cleft journey. It contains support and knowledge to help parents navigate their experiences in a way which empowers both resilient and authentic connection with themselves and their children, minimising judgment, shame and guilt and maximising compassion, kindness and connection.

Cleft children are cycle breakers. Parenting cycle breakers is challenging. They will not fit the mould you may have perceived your parenting journey to look like. They don't from the start right?

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As parents, we are the ones on the front line; in the middle of the night, whilst waiting to speak to the hospital or any agency, when the situations occur that require the immediate response which we are so frequently ill equipped to deliver, because we have never been taught this stuff.

You will learn what you need in those moments and you will begin to see from a trauma informed lens what is happening and why. Or what may have happened and why, this conscious awareness is the beginning of shifting your reality from fear based reactive living to empowered, connected awareness.

Does this sound familiar?

  • You find yourself living in the future and/or past and often catch yourself fearful or worried for your child

  • You are frustrated by the lack of understanding from those around you about your fears and concerns for your baby, child or teen

  • You feel disconnected and don’t quite know how you got there

  • You may feel quite alone and don’t go out as often as you used to, with or without your baby/child

  • You may not want to be parenting how you are, and know something is out of alignment but don’t know how to change it

  • You may feel shame and guilt towards yourself for your perceived inability to hold it all together and get through

  • You may feel envious of friends, who seem to have an easier parenting journey

  • Comparison and overwhelmed may have become your go to

"Things can be different and you already have everything you need inside of you to live with more ease, even when there are the
inevitable challenges of the
cleft journey around you."

The awareness I will teach inside this program will guide you to live and parent through a trauma informed lens. This means that you will be given the opportunity to reflect and begin to see yourself differently. In turn you will be able to deeply understand yourself, your thoughts and your behaviours so that you can give yourself and your family the biggest gift ever. The true you whilst parenting from an empowered place to enable your beautiful children to become all it is they came here to be.




A 6 week Group Coaching program focussing on the cleft parenting journey through an Integrated Trauma informed lens.

Those who attend will experience the following and more -

  • Weekly live teachings from me - each week we will learn another aspect of cleft parenting through a trauma informed lens

  • A private space to consider and reflect on the weekly teachings and learnings with me and the other women inside

  • A deeper understanding of what trauma actually is, and how it shows itself on the cleft parenting journey

  • A clarity on how trauma may present in our children and what we can do about it in real time, if needed

  • New insight on yourself and your family dynamic and how you can begin to lead your family to a more fulfilling and joyful existence with less fear and more connection.

"Katie, you have been able to eloquently put into words, thoughts that have been jumbled in my head. You definitely help me to sort out thoughts, feelings, and see a new or different point of view. I am grateful for all of your help as you are further in your journey than myself and I feel better prepared for the future of my own journey"

Carleen M

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What you will learn

Cleft Crisis to Cleft Confidence will help to enable you to experience more positive emotions for longer, better mental state and emotional stability, nervous system flexibility to be able to respond not react. Inner confidence and trust from the knowledge and understanding and within it. All of this with a complete focus on parenting a cleft child and all that this involves; from surgery to social media.

Here’s what you’ll learn over our 6 weeks together:

  1. What trauma is and what it isn’t, why it is important for us parenting children with cleft to be trauma informed

  2. How trauma shows up on the cleft parenting journey for us and our cleft affected children and what we can do about it

  3. How our brains and our nervous systems impact our thoughts, feelings and behaviours and why this happens

  4. How to recognise and monitor your body's communication to bring conscious awareness, enabling you to respond to the challenges of cleft parenting from an empowered state; responding not reacting

  5. Knowledge and understanding which will shed light on your personal parenting journey, by default supporting your other children and your partner or extended family members from a trauma informed lens

  6. Guidance and tools to support you and your child from surgery implications to social media fears, giving you invaluable confidence to access your inner wisdom moving forwards

How does the course work?

  • You will be sent workbooks to download weekly which will coincide with the topics covered in the calls. It will be emailed out to you after the call.

  • You will be sent an email with all the numbers for the Live weekly teaching calls in ZOOM and Q and As, recordings of these will be sent out weekly, incase you miss one, because, let's face it - life happens

  • Facebook private group chat for reflections and questions in between live calls, I will be checking in there daily during the time we are together

Live ZOOM call dates below

  • 1st - 20th February 2023

  • 2nd - 27th February 2023

  • 3rd - 6th March 2023

  • 4th - 13th March 2023

  • 5th - 20th March 2023

  • 6th - 27th March 2023 Final Call

Plus 2 weeks extra support after the Final Call

Remember -

  • Each session has an accompanying workbook with summaries of the lessons and places for you to make notes

  • You’ll have forever access to the course so you can go through everything at your own pace and come back to it again and again ( if I move the content - I will let you know where to find everything)

Choose your pricing plan


    Cleft Crisis to Cleft Confidence 2023 Pay in Full
    Valid for one month
    • Cleft Crisis to Cleft Confidence Course 2023

    Every month
    Cleft Crisis to Cleft Confidence 2023 - 3 Payments £260 x3
    Valid for 3 months
    • Cleft Crisis to Cleft Confidence Course 2023

    Every month
    Cleft Crisis to Cleft Confidence 2023 - 6 payments £140 x 6
    Valid for 6 months
    • Cleft Crisis to Cleft Confidence Course 2023

This course is for you if you are a cleft mum who is:



* Happy to learn alongside others

* You are committed to your personal growth and awareness

* You are ready to be open to seeing things differently

* You are ready to take radical responsibility for how you parent and show up everyday for yourself and your family


This course isn't for you if you aren’t a cleft mum or you:

* Are not open to seeing things from another perspective

* If you are looking for a quick fix

* Not willing to commit the time to yourself


Frequently Asked Questions:


What's the workload like?

This is entirely up to you. Workbooks are there for you to follow and you can go at your own pace. Just by being in the space you will benefit.

How much time will I need to dedicate to this programme?

Attend the live calls when you can, the recordings when you can’t, these will be approx 60 mins - but may run over if needed. Try and follow the program sequentially as the sessions are designed to follow on from one another. You will be sent all information sequentially. If you wish to do more than watch the calls you can use the workbooks to support your process as and when you want to. This is completely down to your discretion.

Will you be running this programme/course again?

I do not know at this time.

When does the cart close?

4th February 2023

Do I have to attend live?

No, but it will benefit you more if you can. As there will be discussions opportunities at the end of the calls.

How can I contact you if I need extra support?

You can access extra support from me through the private FB book group.

What's your refund policy?

There are no refunds. 

What equipment/books/resources do I need?

Nothing, just yourself, you can of course work through the books with a pen/pencil after the calls if you wish to process further.

Interested in Pay What You Can Places?

Contact Katie through email

Got a question I haven't answered anywhere ? Email me here and I'll be happy to answer it!

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